You’re Not Lost. You Were Never Given the Rulebook

A big sister intro to the career and life moments women keep navigating alone.

If you’ve ever stared at your screen wondering why job searching feels like detective work, why relocating knocked the confidence out of you, or why one tiny piece of feedback ruined your whole day, you’re exactly who I’m writing this for.

I spent years inside HR and recruiting watching brilliant women question themselves for things they couldn’t have possibly known. Hiring processes that were confusing on purpose. Promotions that made no sense. Decisions that had nothing to do with talent. Job markets that felt impossible and made everyone feel behind.

You weren’t the problem. You were operating without information.

Here’s the real truth no one gives women early enough:

And once you see that, everything you’re feeling suddenly makes sense.

Feeling lost after a layoff. Feeling invisible during a job search. Feeling unsure in a new country. Feeling guilty for wanting more. Feeling like everyone else secretly knows how to do this.

These aren’t personal flaws. These are normal reactions to a system that expects you to figure things out alone.

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Inside urBigSister, you’ll get the context that finally makes real life make sense.

Think of it like sitting with a big sister who actually tells you the things HR and managers wish women understood but never say directly.

If you’ve ever sat there thinking something like: “How am I supposed to know all this already”, you’re exactly where you need to be.

Come inside.

Let’s make your career feel less like guesswork and more like something you actually have control over.

Subscribe to join urBigSister.

This is where things finally start making sense.